Nobody’s kissing my lips!
You know, I never really got to talk about how great I think this scene is. I know a lot of people are talking shit about them in the tags (yes, I’ve been reading all of your tags, thanks xkit) and a good deal of them say something like “when girls pretend to be lesbians for attention” or “straight girls be like” and I think that’s kind of like???? You’re missing the point?? One of the things OITNB does is show the variety of the spectrum of the Kinsey Scale (which is flawed and often inaccurately used anyway) and this scene kinda plays into that. Between Piper’s bi/pan sexuality, Poussey and Taystee’s will-they-won’t-they-straight-lesbian-tension, Lorna’s “only into girls while I’m in prison” attitude, and the other many evolving sexualities this show portrays, this scene was another discussion of experimentation.
In context, this is two very close friends talking about how lonely they feel, and one is heart broken, then they share a moment of intimacy. They make out for a bit (because c’mon, kissing is nice) then laugh about it afterwards. It’s cute, yes, but they weren’t into it and that’s okay. There are plenty of reasons why two people wouldn’t be into kissing each other, like lack of physical attraction or feeling uncomfortable with the situation. More importantly, it’s a scene that shows a kiss between two women a) without demonizing or mocking female sexuality, b) objectifying it — which this show has been criticized with doing for some other same-sex relationships, c) encouraging healthy and consensual experimentation but not pressurizing it, which is perfectly okay. A lot of people don’t get to examine their sexuality because people are very quick to tell them to stick with one thing or stop pretending to be something they’re not. Not to mention, this gets rid of that age old stereotype that women are only in same-sex relationships because they didn’t have a man in their life so another woman is essentially a stand-in.
But this was nice because Flaca and Martiza tried something new, which they found wasn’t for them, and they didn’t have to do some awkward unrequited attraction thing after or laughing about those silly lesbians, haha look we still clung to our heterosexuality even when we had no man and were surrounded by hot women, etc etc. It’s natural and it flows and honestly, I think it makes their relationship even better. That said, I still ship them to Litchfield and back.